MIAMI (CBSMiami) — Seventy percent of marriages that end up in divorce are due to financial disagreements.
Now more people are relying on a three-digit number to measure a person’s character.
While most people in the dating game have a list of things they want in a potential mate such as looks, personality or how someone makes them feel, single men and women of all ages are using a person’s credit score to determine if there’s a love connection.
Yvonne Haase, relationship and family expert at International Holistic Center in Fort Lauderdale says people are associating good credit score with signs of stability.
“One of the first questions even before, have you been tested for STD’s or even asking about past relationships people actually come out with – what is your credit score?”
Lauren Hagan, single, says, “If you have a good credit score, I guess that means you are good at managing your money, I guess. I guess that says a lot about a person.”
Not everyone agrees.
“Personally, I don’t think you should judge someone based on credit score. Everyone makes mistakes along the way,” says Brett who is currently in a committed relationship.
“It’s an interesting theory,” says Haase. “I think people are really digging for a measurement because the rest of them don’t seem to be working. They’re saying, ‘well, ok, I’ve asked all these other questions and I keep ending up with Mr. or Ms. Wrong. Here’s a chance at something new. Let me throw in this measurement.”
But does cupid really need a three-digit number to measure its aim at your heart?
Some think so. In fact, the dating site Credit Score Dating has more than 35,000 members all hoping to snag a mate based on that score.
According to research, 78% of Americans in a committed relationship prefer a partner who is good with money over one who is physically attractive. While the idea may seem strange and a little vain, the reasons behind it are serious and very real for a lot of singles of all ages re-entering the dating game.
Haas says she hears clients say that they’ve taken care of themselves all these years while they’ve been single and that they are not looking to take care of anyone else nor do they want anyone to think that they have to be taken care of.
“It’s not an indication of how they are going to interact interpersonally. It’s an indication of how they interact with their bill collectors,” says Haase, adding that understanding what makes a person tick would be a better indicator of potential mate’s character.
“Are they consistent? Are they delivering the same message to you over and over? What is their family life like? Are they connected to other people? Do they have friends? What do they do that brings them happiness? Do they have a purpose? Do they have some kind of excitement in their life? Even more than what’s your credit score.”
It turns out most people who want other people to have a good credit score don’t have one themselves. Experts say relationships are like everything else – what you put in is what you get out, so check your score before you ask someone else for theirs.