MIAMI (CBSMiami) — The holidays can bring tons of cheer and conversation, but sometimes they can turn sour when the hot-button issues are mentioned.
“Holidays are often a special time to catch up with family and friends, but things can turn sour when you and Uncle Joe come to blows around an issue like climate change,” said Virginia Tech Assistant Professor Todd Schenk.READ MORE: Gov. Ron DeSantis Says Florida Will Help With Border Control
But instead of avoiding it, Schenk says you should engage in productive dialogue.
“It is typically healthier to find ways to have more respectful dialogue, and we can often learn in the process,” said Schenk.READ MORE: Sailings On Royal Caribbean's 'Odyssey Of The Seas' Postponed After Crew Members Test Positive For COVID
For those willing to dive into the conversation, he has some tips to turn a sour speech into constructive conversation.
- Respect the person you are speaking with and accept that they have positive and negative traits.
- Abide by a set of ‘ground rules’ such as no personal attacks and no interrupting.
- Describe your views while avoiding assumptions about others.
- Practice ‘active listening’ by asking questions to further understand the other person’s views and show that you understand what they are saying. Be open to that person’s views.
- If it’s science-oriented, like climate change, engage in a mini ‘fact-finding’ process where both of you learn where your opinions converge and diverge. Which sources do both of you agree are credible or not?
Schenk offered one last piece of advice which he says is many times the most difficult.
“Think before you speak. We all say things we regret from time to time, but those situations are best avoided if we can,” said Schenk.
If all else fails, there’s always eggnog.