MIAMI (CBSMiami) — For many divorcing couples the day the final papers arrive in the mail brings mixed emotions. But some are finding comfort in an unexpected place — parties.
“We had cocktails and cake and hors d’oeuvres,” said Sumara Dunn who recently celebrated her divorce.
Sarah Milatello celebrated the end of her marriage by trading up her wedding ring for a brand new rock, which she called her divorce ring.
“This symbolized you know me being born into a whole different era of greatness for myself,” she explained.
Anthony Bazzell teamed up with a party planner to arrange a bash that would commemorate the end of his long and painful divorce. “I was told by a number of my close friends, ‘you know. I can’t wait until this is over, you should have a party’.”
The post divorce party trend is growing.
Andrea Corielia is part of the growing industry that’s catering to people who no longer grieve the ending. They want to rejoice in starting over and do so with a bang.
“It used to be that people would just associate divorce with the doom and gloom. Now it’s a time to celebrate. It’s a rebirth,” said Corielia.
Couple’s counselor Donna Martini said when divorce is inevitable; embracing the future is a positive first step.
“You’re allowed to be who you are and allowed to pursue your happiness so this is a way to mark that, to say okay the hardship, the really tough part is over now,” explained Martini.
Nearly half of all marriages end in divorce, it’s a staggering statistic. Some say that celebrating what most consider a failure sends the wrong message.
“To celebrate something that did not result in a good union, that goes against the vows that somebody took,” said psychiatrist Harris Straightner.
Straightner said these parties could also backfire if there are children involved. “So you brought me into this world now you’re celebrating that you’re splitting up.”
Despite the critics, there is a growing industry springing up around this trend which include not only the parties but also presents and outrageous cake designs
Elizabeth Petrakus did it with a new designer handbag but it would still take years of a wrenching legal drama for her to finally win a landmark decision that would overturn her prenup.
“I’m looking forward to celebrating a new life, a new beginning, a new chapter in my life,” said Petrakus.
In addition, some divorcing couples are actually throwing their divorce parties together to celebrate their amicable splits.