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FORT LAUDERDALE (CBS4) – A Broward County judge ordered a Plantation man to perform an unusual release condition after he was arrested for domestic violence: take your wife out to dinner and bowling.

Judge John “Jay” Hurley made the unorthodox ruling after Joseph Bray, 47, was arrested for allegedly pushing his wife onto the couch in their home and putting his hands on her neck. The arrest affidavit stated that Bray lifted his hand to strike her, but never did.

Bray’s wife, who was also in court, said the argument began after Bray did not wish her a happy birthday.

After that, they learned Hurley’s release condition.

“He’s going to stop by somewhere and he’s going to get some flowers,” Judge John “Jay” Hurley said during the first appearance hearing. “And then he’s going to go home, pick up his wife, get dressed, take her to Red Lobster. And then after they have Red Lobster, they’re going to go bowling.”

Judge Hurley emphasized that he would not make such a ruling had the charge been more serious, or Bray’s wife was in any danger She told the court that she did not fear for her life.

“It was a minor incident, in the court’s opinion,” he said. “The court would not normally do that if the court felt there was some violence but this is very, very minor and the court felt that that was a better resolution than other alternatives.”

In addition to the “date”, Judge Hurley ordered the couple to undergo marriage counseling.

Source: South Florida Sun-Sentinel

Comments (5)
  1. Michael S says:

    Some Judges are just awesome!

    1. Lake Worth says:

      This is an appalling ruling showing a clear lack of understanding of the dynamics of domestic violence; it supports people who abuse and informs victims that they will not find safety or justice in court.
      If Judge Hurley were trained in the dynamics of domestic violence, he would know that an abuser putting his hands on a victim’s neck is a known sign of the heightened possibility that he will murder that person.
      Judge Hurley should not be allowed to preside over cases of domestic violence until he has made a public apology and has undergone training on the dynamics of domestic violence. If he thinks shoving someone onto a couch, placing hands on her neck and raising hand to hit her is “very, very minor” – what does he consider grave?

  2. Royal says:

    Some judges are just awesome and it IS NOT THIS ONE

  3. Sellous says:


    I don’t hear or even see your comment when a wicked female tells a lie on a man or when a woman abuses a man. Why the hell you people are so bias and wicked against men.?

    I was attacked by my estranged wife ten years after we separated. Duue to her violent temper I left the matrimonial home, lived by myself for over 10 and for that ten years this woman keeps turning up at my place constantly harassing me over some petty matters

    In 2003 she turned up at my place of business, fussing over $20.00 our son gave me towards a book bag, that incident got me arrested on some trumped up charges, Aggravated Assault with a deadly weapon, Burglary and Battery, for trying to protect myself from this wicked daughter of the devil call woman, Believe me I did not even touch her.

    You people need to place the same emphasis and priority on men who are victims as well as women or shut the hell up! You know quite well that in most cases it is the woman who throws the first blow.

    I ,must also place some of the blame these men who are in authority, such as Judges, prosecutors as well as police officers as they themselves are nothing but cowards. No one wants to speak out against the wicked injustice men are facing in this country. Feminist groups and other organizations encourage women to lie on men, then the justice system takes pleasure in sending men to jail guilty or not.

    It’s full time that we men demand a law that will see women spend time behind bars for making false domestic abuse allegations. They should be sentenced to the same amount of time the false charges carry, then and only then will these liars stop destroying the character and lives of good men.

    I also have a word of caution and warning to you so called men out there who are putting your filthy hands on women, I say you are nothing but worthless half men, STOP IT!

    Your action contribute to the injustices meted out to all men in this country, as the system sees all men as abusers because of the worthless few.

    To you women who take pleasure in telling lies, I say to you, the day is fast approaching when you will have to answer to almighty God for the lies you tell so as to get that man out of that home, the very home he most times worked so hard to own.

    You wicked devils!

    I spent three months behind bars for a crime I did not commit, If it wasn’t for almighty God I would be in prison 30 years to life for something I did not do.

    Again I say shut the hell up! Or be fair in what you do.

    Who feels it knows it!

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