Why Women Cheat On Their Husbands

MIAMI (CBS4) — The reasons why men and women cheat on their partners are very different. Studies show that men are more likely to become involved in an affair because of insecurity, often because they feel they’re failing as a provider. They can be perfectly happy in their relationship and still seek a mistress. Women, on the other hand, are a whole other story.

Talk show host Cisco Cotto is happily married now. But he’s no stranger to heartbreak. In fact, he has had more than one long-term relationship come to a crashing halt because his girlfriend was unfaithful.

“It happened to me three or four times in college, to a point where honestly, I was wondering if I had ‘cheat on me’ written across my forehead,” Cotto said. Each time, they told Cotto the same thing.

“They were done with the relationship, but I was so nice to them that they felt bad hurting me by breaking up with me,” Cotto said.

Therapists say that up to 20 percent of women cheat on their husbands or boyfriends. That compares to 50 to 60 percent of men.

The reason women stray is often, because they are emotionally done with a relationship, but have a hard time calling it quits. That makes them vulnerable to bond with someone else.

“In the vast majority of affairs, the partner is somebody that the individual knows, either from work, or a social acquaintance, or a friend,” said psychologist Dr. Jeff Sieracki.

Dr. Sieracki says the number of women cheaters is rising. Why? He says for one thing, women are getting married later, and having dated more, they are more aware of their options out there.

Secondly, many of these “options” are suddenly more accessible because they’re popping up on Facebook.

“Social media relates to the emotional connection that women often search for, and one of the reasons why they have affairs is for emotional reasons,” Sieracki said.

Divorce attorney Corri Fetman says while women tend to forgive a cheating partner, the reverse does not apply.

“If a man is cheated on, the relationship is over. It’s done,” Fetman said.

So what is Cotto’s advice for other nice guys who get cheated on?

“Find yourself a woman who values your relationship enough to put up boundaries to protect that relationship,” Cotto said. “That woman’s a keeper.”

Cotto is right. Therapists say cheating usually results after a series of boundary violations. So for a relationship to overcome temptation, couples should set up rules when it comes to contact and friendships with the opposite sex.

Therapists also advise you shouldn’t do or say anything you wouldn’t if your partner was right in front of you.

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  1. art says:

    Mike, your sounding bitter. Did you have an interrupted nap. There are good and bad people all over the world. What makes you think they are concentrated here in this beautiful city of ours ? Try Detriot, now.. there is a heavily favored candidate for a Utopian society to congregate.Best schools and shopping for five hundred miles.

  2. Karla says:

    mike you sound very ignorant but the good laugh was very nice.. not speaking english and cheating do go hand in hand.. and yes apparently miami is the only place where women cheat forget that this is merely a small city in the entire world… do yourself the favor and think before you speak..

  3. Lubo R says:

    … if ” third world trash ” characterization is true, than U.S. is on top of it – as the most industrialized third world country…

  4. coleyounger says:

    Yeah, Jacqueline Corrales is one of them. She cheated on her boyfriend big time….The thing is…she said she was going to do it and she did it !!!! unbelieveable!!! talk about ethics !!!!

  5. Paul says:

    Don’t get married problem solved !!!

  6. TEDBELL says:

    Well…women cheat because of the 40+yr assult led by those liberals ON THE CHURCH AND ON GOOD CHRISTIAN FAMILY VALUES.

    WE KICK GOD OUT OF OUR SCHOOLS BECAUSE OF ATHEISTS AND THE ACLU WHILE ALLOWING , ABORTION AND GAY MARRIAGE!!!!

    MURICA IS A CHRISTIAN NATION AND IF THESE POOR WOMEN HAD A RELATIONSHIP WITH JESUS CHRIST, THEY WOULDNT CHEAT.

    I PRAY THAT THESE SINNERS ACCEPT KING OF ALL KINGS …JESUS CHRIST!!!!! AMEN

    GOD BLESS ‘MURICA, IN THE NAME OF JEBUS CHRIST AMEN!!!!!!!

  7. Wesley Green says:

    check this out .

  8. anita says:

    Hey mike sounds llike you are a gumpy old man. Does us ladies fcvor leave this state where the sun does not shine.

  9. danny a. says:

    If someone “cheats” on you, that’s their problem. Now they have to deal with their own thoughts, actions, and behaviors wherever they go. You can always get away and start again, regardless of how good-looking or interesting that person might have been.

    I love how this article is called “Why Women Cheat” when it clearly states that 20% of women cheat versus 50-60% of men. It should have been “Why Married People Cheat.” Way to go CBS. :]

  10. Loggerhead says:

    “20 percent of women cheat” sounds very low, but the fact remains that MOST relationships will suffer from cheating so before you get into a relationship with someone breach the subject and have grpund rules- IF YOU CHEAT/ARE GOING TO CHEAT TELL THE OTHER PERSON- it is called honesty as opposed to, well: cheating, just do to others as you would have done to you.
    Time to get real and be true to yourself so you can give truth to others. We all will fall short of what we should be, it is how we handle things AFTER we screw up that makes us the person we are, honest or a cheater, in other words the person you are is not determind by acts, it is determined by who you are inside the one individual you will never get away from- YOU.

    1. danny says:

      I totally agree (except for that “falling short” part).

  11. John Richardson says:

    Women cheat for the same reasons as men and in the same approximate numbers. Women are just s sleazy as men.

    Women simply live a culture oflies, half truths and not taking responsibilty for their actions…so somehow…they cheat and it is “noble” and/or the man’s fault. But a man cheats because he is weak….this is the conclusion of this article.

    This article is a farce…women cheat for noble reasons……to save a man’s feelings and emotions….poppycock! And only 20% of women cheat/ get real and stop the hansel and grettal story telling here….Balderdash.

  12. TEDBELL says:

    Well…women cheat because of the 40+yr assult led by those liberals ON THE CHURCH AND ON GOOD CHRISTIAN FAMILY VALUES.

    WE KICK GOD OUT OF OUR SCHOOLS BECAUSE OF ATHEISTS AND THE ACLU WHILE ALLOWING , ABORTION AND GAY MARRIAGE!!!!

    MURICA IS A CHRISTIAN NATION AND IF THESE POOR WOMEN HAD A RELATIONSHIP WITH JESUS CHRIST, THEY WOULDNT CHEAT.

    I PRAY THAT THESE SINNERS ACCEPT KING OF ALL KINGS …JESUS CHRIST!!!!! AMEN

    GOD BLESS ‘MURICA, IN THE NAME OF JEBUS CHRIST AMEN!!!!!!!

  13. TEDBELL says:

    THANKS TO THOSE WITCHES KNOWN AS THE LEADERS OF THE “FEMINIST MOVEMENT” HAVE BRAINWASHED THESE YOUNG HUSSIES TO ACT THE WAY THEY DO.

    THANK GOD FOR SARAH PALIN AND BRISTOL PALIN THESE ARE TWO UPSTANDING MURICANS THAT YOU YOUNG HUSSIES CAN LEARN A THING OR TWO FROM.

    GOD HAS SENT THEM AT THIS TIME AND PLACE HERE TO HAVE A MORE POSITIVE ROLE ON OUR YOUNG MOTHERS AND DAUGHTERS OUT THERE,

    IT WILL TAKE TIME TO REVERSE THE DAMAGE THAT THE FEMINIST MOVEMENT HAS DONE TO THE YOUNG MOTHERS AND DAUGHTERS IN OUR SOCIETY THANKS TO THE PARIS HILTONS OF THE WORLD.

    GOD BLESS!!!!

    JESUS LOVES YOU ALL!!!!!!!!!

  14. Mont says:

    ARE YOU COMPLETELY IGNORANT OR JUST BEING SARCASTIC? BRISTOL PALIN HAVING A BABY OUT OF WEDLOCK, IS THAT SUPPOSE TO BE A RELIGIOUS ROLE MODEL FOR YOUNG LADIES?

  15. chris chan says:

    pls send me updates

  16. very true says:

    it is very sad that women have to cheat today, they just cannot be committed to just one man. what LOW LIFE LOSERS,they are.

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